Saving my virginity for the right man is important to me.

I’m not a religious crack pot. I don’t believe in ‘no sex before marriage,’ I think that’s stupid. Sexual compatibility is a big thing in any relationship. I wouldn’t want to wait till I’m married to find out that my husband has about as much sexual potency as a celibate panda, and thus I’m stuck in a marriage without a healthy physical side. But I do believe in no sex before love. Too many girls are too keen to drop their knickers at the very first opportunity, it’s not woman-like and its not nice. I have lots of male friends who tell me that whilst ‘sluts’ have their advantages (I’ll let you gather what these are), they do not command any respect amongst boys and their friends. They are seen as a ‘I’m really drunk and horny, fuck it, I’ll fuck her, she’s a slag…’

I would never like to think of myself as being thought of like that. So whenever I get a little bit of stick for being ‘frigid’ or a girl who ‘doesn’t put out,’ I remind myself of this and I don’t let it get to me. I find it important that I don’t just give away something I can never get back. I want to look back on my life and be pleased about the decisions I’ve made. Undoubtedly I will look back and regret some decisions, but my decision to save my virginity until I feel love will not be one. I have at times felt pressured into doing it, I mean almost all of my friends have done it and it’s all they seem to talk about now! Who’s fucking who, blah blah blah. I’ve had people tell me to ‘just get it out of the way’ and then find the one you love, but that to me is so wrong. I’m a shy girl as it is, so to imagine being so intimate with someone who I didn’t love and trust completely is in no way whatsoever appealing. It’s just not me.

I’m not in any way bitching at the girls who don’t save it for the right person. It’s their virginity, not mine! People should go with their hearts. If it feels wrong, then don’t do it, if it does, then by all means get involved, enjoy yourself! But be careful! Some of my friends have had boys sleep with them and then never speak to them again. I myself thought at one point that the time might be right for me, but it turned out that this boy was just a twat who was apparently doing it for a bet! The male species can be horrible, horrible, horrible! So be careful girls, remember that what we have, every boy wants. But what they want, is often not what we want.

I’m proud to say I’m a virgin and I will be until I find the right person. No compromises!